You appear to be this big, cold space
Accepting everything dated and dusty
Infested with the sequelae of neglect
How lonesome it must feel…
But you know what ?
I see you and I love you.

You ingest the onslaught of the sleepy world
Yet one word of complaint, you never mutter
You are dishevelled, malnourished,fragmented
Still you serve with loyalty and dignity…
Do you know what?
I see you and I love you.

The world may appear malevolent
It may seem there’s no care left here
Who would know that emptiness plagues you?
Hard to imagine given the weight you accomodate
But you should know that
I see you and I love you.

Hear this , You massively important space
Without you clutter reigns free
Without you history has no marker
Without you memories have no haven
Know this today
I see you and I love you

Fear not, worry not, doubt not
The once Unseen, now Seen space
Your significance has come to light
You are so deserving of all the love you now receive
Always know that whenever you feel unseen
I see you and I love you


One Love..

Ral xx

As The Tears Flow


Melancholic, broken, drowning in my tears ..

Rife with self-pity , I notice that I’m here yet again!

With judgement and criticism , I marvel at my senseless stupidity


This dark room has never felt so expansive

Looking around my familiar surroundings, everything appears strange

I ask .. “What am I doing here again?”


How did I get to this place?

Is it this relentless struggle to be?

Could it be that no one else truly understands ?


I’ve lost that feeling of being myself

Who the hell am I? Did I give that away too?

Through the tears everything appears blurry


At last I give in to the sobs wracking my whole being

I mourn the loss of who I used to be

Happy, content , safe and loved…


All I want is the freedom to be me ..

Will that ever be understood?

What is this need to be understood?


Here I lie, spent, red-faced, a puffy- nose, swollen eyes ,dry mouth

Nothing more , Nothing less re-surfaces,

Still patiently waiting for answers …


My thoughts begin their wondrous journey of inquiry..

Do I love Melancholy ?

Does Melancholy love me?


Both…. She gently whispers ..

Melancholy is your friend ..

Yippee!My long awaited answer arrives


Melancholy takes you on exciting journeys

That are found nowhere outside yourself

For that which you seek is with and within you


Confused? listen with your heart…

Your head is the filter , your heart is the gateway..

Feel the feelings, they are your gifts


You asked to find you? Now here it is ..

That path can only be undertaken

When melancholy is accepted, and not shamed.


Accept her wisdom and your guide she shall be..

Revealing all truths buried deep inside the abyss

Truths seeking the route to freedom


Embrace her and she shall be your cocoon

The comfort she’ll bring you

Shall help you weather the storms


Unite now with her and the release you experience

Will be that unattainable freedom which you seek

For it lies within you


As I embark on this rocky scenic path,

Awash with waves of tearfulness,

I’m gifted with peace and reassurance….


For in that moment , I know

Without a shadow of doubt or despair

That this path which leads me to me….


Can only be full of the riches that only tears reveal

And with it comes the realisation……



It might appear that I often write about pain and suffering but pain is real and often misunderstood and challenged….
I have come to realise that through pain comes enlightenment and wisdom…
Does this resonate with you? Please drop me a line if it does…

One Love XXx

She…..Who we all celebrate

Today We Celebrate SHE…..

Mothers-My Mama, ever loving, ever giving, ever nurturing,ever self-less, ever-knowing,ever intuitive, ever supportive, Now a mum myself, I see and I know the blessing that you are to your husband , your children and your entire family. You have loved us unconditionally from the moment you conceived us till this present moment…You still think of us first when you wake up, and we are the last thing on your mind before you sleep. You have touched the lives of thousands of people worldwide with your fiery passion to educate and inspire growth in others.You have won the heart and respect of your husband and in-laws ,as you have stood(and still stand) by your man through thick and thin,whilst extending your love and generosity towards others…10,000 pages are not enough to write about your incredible expressions of unconditional love . You are my heroine , You are my torch , You are my stepping stone,You are my rockstar..I love you Mum…

Sisters– My beloved Sisters.. the thought of you both feels my heart with so much joy..You make me feel like I have a billion hands around me, holding me up ,and never letting go..I’m confident as I walk this path called the journey of life, because I never feel alone. I feel your eternal love daily and I’m blessed to have you in my life .Together we laugh, together we cry, together we stand.. My love for you is unfathomable and never ceases…I could never have asked for better co-pilots as I navigate this journey..

Cousins-My G-funk girls for life, amazing ,courageous women you are, and are growing up to be. You have learnt from the best women and men in the world. You are always willing to be there for me when I need help, when I need support, and when I need to feel younger at heart..We share silly stories, We share our men woes, We laugh, we dance ,we cry..Remain Loving and Courageous.. Love you all so much..

Sisters/Mothers in Law-Your love is reflective of the one who sleeps beside me tonight. You love, and so he loves.. Sisters-You have nurtured and supported the men and women  in your lives,hence this circle of love we possess,which I am so blessed to experience….All my love to you …

Aunts-My dear surrogate mums.. You who have nurtured and cared for me when mum was out working, worn and tired, You who taught me to cook delicious meals , You who made my hair and dressed me up, You who listened to my crush stories,You who taught me dance moves , You who sang to me , You who loved me before you had yours (and still do)… My Aunts are the best.. I love you all so dearly, Remember in your hearts today the good times we’ve had ..Love is the only key to lasting happiness and joy...

Friends-What can I say about my friends, who are more like my soul sisters!I got to experience the true value of friendship recently . The outpouring of love cracked my heart open.The sheer volume of the love I received made up for the loss borne at the time. You are all amazing, and I love you all just the way you are…Thank you all for being with me on this journey, called LIFE….

Acquaintances-All the transient bystanders who’ve had one or two chit chats with me , you who’ve made the train journeys interesting, you who’ve triggered interesting conversations in restaurants,the hellos on the side walks to and from school runs,the acknowledging nods from you as we run past one another during our morning runs,you who I’ve made an instant connection with at conferences, workshops et al. We may never meet again or may never get to know one another past this level..I acknowledge you and send you love and gratitude for the positive energy..

Colleagues-I acknowledge all my female colleagues , past , present and future.My most heartfelt gratitude for  listening ,understanding, supporting,encouraging, guiding &caring for  me .Thanks for appreciating how tough it can be,being a Woman in the workplace, and acknowledging that we often struggle, especially when it comes to balancing our numerous responsibilities … You are Loved…

Women worldwide– I acknowledge you for your strength, tenacity, divine love, compassion,creativity, warmth ..I reach out to all you beautiful beings…Rise up, awaken and reclaim your sacred femininity…

All feminine beings– Awaken!!! Let us Love , Love , Love with all our hearts . That which comes naturally to us yearns to be explored and unleashed…SEND LOVE & LIGHT INTO OUR WORLD.

Me– I acknowledge me, and rejoice in the knowledge of the consciousness that has borne me into existence. I rejoice in the knowledge of the divine connection with all that has been, all that is and all that will be.I acknowledge this beautiful soul that has chosen to experience life in this beautiful vehicle called my body.I acknowledge this mind that strives daily to protect this soul which knows no fear,by being incredibly creative! Thank you of caring for us … I Love me , I Love you, I Love us…

As we celebrate Women, may we remember to make time ,not just today ,but every so often to acknowledge the beauty of the divine feminine in our lives.. Rise up , awaken , Oh ye creative beings, Let us join hands and protect, nourish,and preserve what we have all collectively birthed and continue to birth.. Our Men and boys need us to lead them to LOVE, Our World needs us , God has chosen us and has given us these divine feminine gifts…..GOD is LOVE and  LOVE is the message…

One Love..

Ral xxx

“In blessed memory of my dearest Grandmother Elizabeth Diana Uzuhai (whose presence and love I still feel ) and her Mother, my great grandmother Margaret Esedumme- Both amazing women in their unique ways.

I also acknowledge and celebrate my paternal Grandmother Janet Gbandi, whose compassion, love and wisdom I heard of as a child . Sadly we never met , but I am an extension of your divine femininity..”

(PS: this was written yesterday in commemoration of  International Women’s Day)

A Call to Love

I heard the call, deep within my soul…

From the crypts and crevices , it came surging..

I felt it encompass my heart space…..

Bigger than me, bigger than you , bigger than us…


Love is what I am , what you are, what we are..

Love is never separate from us..

We are never separate from love…

If we feel separate, all we need to do is invite Love…


Love is the reason I’m writing today..

Love is the reason you’re reading this today…

Love for self and others is the purpose…

Love for our Universe is the cradle …


Is Love a language worth learning?

Is love a piece worth  creating ?

Is love a gift worth sharing?

Is Love  a muse worth having?


Yes , Yes and Yes all the questions  above


Love is the greatest gift of all…

Love is the most soothing balm of all…

Love is the thickest cloak of all…

Love is the greatest force in our universe…


We are invincible with Love..

We are formidable with Love ..

We are unstoppable with Love..

We are synchronised with Love..


Let us hold each others hands  with love..

And Love from a place so deep and pure..

We can pay it forward with love…

We can show up  with Love..


One Love

Ral Xxx…



Peeps, I was inspired to share this ,this morning, and I really do hope that Love encompasses all we do today and  forever..

I haven’t posted here in ages, but love grabbed a hold of me today , and said, “No more hiding, take your seat on this train…

Love…we can never escape it, try as we might …So let’s just give in and surrender to its wings..

We can love without reason, beyond colour,identity, status , culture, religion, nationality, race…

We can do it , just because we can !

It’s in our DNA to love…Our Universe needs us to be whatever expression of love that we are….

We are made of pure love, and so love is what we naturally do…..

We only have to go back to our earliest memories of Pure love on Earth… If we think we’ve forgotten how to love…Look into the eyes of another , Look into your own eyes!! You will see Divinity…


Sending you all Pure Love and Big Hugs…


NAKED, we are born

Imagine for one moment…

Born naked and free, we are

Yet our whole lives are spent struggling to be just that.

Open and vulnerable we truly are,

However we go through life disowning just that,

Wild and authentic our true natures are,

But a great chunk of our existence denies just that….


Just Thinking…

Life as we know it, exists freely

Body as we see it, exists naked

Heart as we feel it remains, vulnerable

Mind as we perceive it, remains open

Nature as we experience it, is authentic

Love,sex ,music, beauty are often Wild……


We are often .…….

Loving about what we think we know ,

Accepting of what we think we understand

Understanding about what we can relate with

Relate with what seems acceptable to us

Protective of what makes us vulnerable

Satisfied with what appears universal


Is there room?

In our hearts… to love in ways we are not used to?

In our minds …to think and analyse in unconventional ways?

In our tongues… to bring forth healing words that may sound alien to us?

In our ears …to listen without judgement or criticism but with pure intent?

In our eyes… to see humanity, our planet , our universe as One?

In our hands …to extend healing and uplifting energy – one being to another?


It begins..

Here and now…

Inside me and you…

When we delve deeper…

As we honestly explore…

From our heart space ..

With a process of INQUIRY …………


Eventually We Begin to …

See ,

Feel ,

Taste ,

Hear/Perceive ,



The Nakedness of Life and the Freedom we are born with…. 


One Love…


All we need is ❤️

All we need is LOVE…. LOVE truly is ALL…

Does it feel like the world is going through a refining process?

Is it a case of ” it get’s worse before it becomes better”?

I pray for the day that we all start to see “Me in You and You in Me!

I’m consciously choosing to see the possibility of life in brighter shades, amidst all the doom and gloom…

Let’s join hands and pray for our dear Universe…Let us unite in love and oneness

This is the time that WE as a people,WE as a species,  can grow stronger in our yearning to show the world what LOVE truly is…

Sending you all Divine Love..

Peace 🙏


Until you find your truth..

I’ve felt uninspired ,
I’ve felt drained,
I’ve felt disillusioned,
I’ve felt depleted incapable of giving anymore
I’ve felt disenchanted there was no more magic in life
I”ve felt lonesome-despite all around me
I’ve felt lost-with no idea how to find my way home
I’ve felt disconnected from my soul’s purpose
I’ve felt dissociated – from my tribe
I’ve felt disentangled from that which serves me
I’ve felt disillusioned
I’ve felt a deep sense of loss-yet seemingly having it all

I assumed I had to be in control ,
I thought it was in my power to find my way back home,
I pushed…the more I pushed, the harder life pushed back…Arghhh!!!

Just let it be, just let go, It’s not your battle
The Silent whisperings of my soul….
Not surprisingly, ignored during this period of heightened resistance with life….

Exhausted with fighting,
I showed up anyway,
Pregnant with expectation,
Apprehensive of the transformation,
Riddled with fear of the unknown
Wondering if I’d be courageous enough to handle the message and carry it forth….


I’ve re-discovered my truth….
I’ve found my place
I have love ,a love that passeth all cognitive understanding
I’ve found my peace
I’ve found my alignment
I have a heart full of joy
I have faith to glide through the unknown
I have abundance
I’m experiencing enlightenment
I’m vulnerable yet strong
I can see, hear , feel , breathe , taste , smell,and perceive with clarity

I am alive again, I have life and life has and holds me , and if I fall again I know I will find you yet again…
If the storms come raging ,I know YOU will protect and Shelter me….

All I need to remember to do is Surrender ….
Surrender all, and the Divine Essence shall give me a new song, a renewed purpose and a re-ignited passion to make my journey uniquely beautiful…

My Truth which makes me whole…I’m truly and deeply grateful and humbled to have found you again…

And so here I ask…..

What makes our hearts sing truly?
What is our truth on a personal level?

My most sincere heartfelt prayer is that we all individually discover what our Truths are…

That we are blessed with the moments, the stillness ,the courage,the guidance to discover our truths…

One Love xxx